After 1 month of social media detox, I have finally decided that what makes my heart beat faster is the passion that I have for self-love, self-compassion and overall, becoming kinder to ourselves.
I’ve gained knowledge about a lot of subjects but somehow, I keep coming back to what practicing self-love has meant for me over the years.
I don’t really talk about it too often, but I grew up with a very critical and harsh mom that did her best to raise me to become the best version of myself. For years and years, what I used to hear as a child, became my day to day inner dialogue. Recently, I realised that I would never to like that to a close friend or even a stranger, so why I am doing it to myself?
This was the moment I realised how important was the way we talk to ourselves. It changed everything: my self esteem, my confidence, the way I see myself and others, how I love people, how easy I forgive myself and others. I also discovered that it is OK to be vulnerable and show your feelings. It changed my perspective completely.
For a long time, it was about the way I look and I had to do a lot of work to accept myself and start talking in a nice way when looking at myself in the mirror. It was very common for me to avoid looking in the mirror and to say things like “your face is ugly”, “look at you, no one will love you”, “your legs are not long enough and you don’t look girly”, “if only your face would be perfect” and a lot more.
After I have discovered the practice of self love and I started being kinder in the way I speak to myself, I got to the point where now I can dance naked in front of the mirror and I LOVE EVERY BIT OF MY BODY. EVERY BIT. Because I only care what I think and how I feel about myself now and I want to feel loved, cherished, feminine, happy with myself, all while being the kindest I can be. And let me tell you, it’s not always easy.
After I have worked through the physical aspect, it became about the thoughts and how I compare myself to other people when it comes to how much I have achieved so far. The pressure of achieving according to set timelines is huge and it is up to us to become aware of when the critical thoughts appear so we can acknowledge and let them go without holding on for longer than necessary.
I personally felt the effects of being kind and loving towards myself over the years, even though it was a gradual process and this is why I have decided to focus my work around these concepts.
If you have suffered in your life because of the way to talk to yourself, because of how harsh you are in your inner dialogue or because you can’t really accept 100% of yourself yet, you might want to follow me because I have interesting things coming up soon.
Love and light,